An American Imam Weighs in on the Same Sex Marriage Debate, by Imam Luqman Ahmad

Same sex marriage debate

In case you haven’t noticed, the Devil (Shaitaan) is taking his fight for our souls and the souls of our children into high gear. Only a small number of people will survive the new wave of satanic thought being thrust upon us, so now is the time to dig in by stepping up our efforts to hold fast the Book and to the sunna of our Prophet (SAWS).  The greatest weapons and defense that we have is our faith, our scripture, and our steadfastness. Remember; just because you do not see Shaitaan in the flesh does not mean that he, his allies and his forces are not attacking you, your family and our community.

As the national debate around same-sex marriage heats up (awaiting a Supreme Court Decision),American Muslims may be called upon to take a public stand on the issue; especially if it passes. Either way, this matter and the reality of homosexuality and lesbianism in America, will remain at the forefront of national discussion for a long time to come. The homosexual lobby is relentless as this is an important fight for Shaitaan and there seems to be no letting up until everyone in America accepts this unholy lifestyle.

Privately, most Muslims are very clear about homosexuality and lesbianism; they reject it outright, and it is clearly prohibited in Islam. Same  sex marriage for most Muslims is out of the question. Whether or not homosexuality exists in the Muslim world, is a matter of debate. Lots of evidence points to the affirmative but that is another discussion altogether.   Still, public discussion one the question of same-sex marriage is difficult for many Muslims, and much of the Muslim political leadership are reluctant to take a definitive stance on it.  This is for a couple of reasons; the first is that during such a time as now when some of our own religious rights and liberties have come under fire, gay and lesbian groups and individuals have been limited allies to Muslims in our own struggle for religious equality in the United States. Thus, any public stance on the matter by Muslims leaders,

Imams, and political activists, risks the potential backlash from that group and from the political Islamic groups and advocacy groups why tacitly support their agenda in order to to garner recipricol support in the very profitable multi-billion dollar, anti-islamophobia industry.  By the way, that’s called politics.

Another reason is that in the effort to be as mainstream as possible, we have in some ways backed ourselves in a corner, and coming out, (no pun intended) on the wrong side of the same-sex marriage debate will signal that we as Muslims are definitely different, and it will highlight the fact that the moral roots of our faith, which are markedly conservative, are not in sync with the current national trend of the rest of the country in accepting same-sex marriage and by proxy, homosexuality. “And to Lot, too, We gave Judgment and Knowledge, and We saved him from the town which practiced abominations: truly they were a people given to Evil, a rebellious people”. [21:74].

Some Muslim leaders, including some imams have remained on the fence about the same-sex marriage issue, and homosexuality. And other Imams or at lest one that I know of have just straight come out of the closet. Ss of this writing, there is already at least one openly gay imam in America.  Some imams are nervously silent, and or have already capitulated and we are already starting to see gay Mosques and gay friendly communities of Muslims in Europe and in the United States.

So let me get this out of the way; I declare here and now that I am against it, and against the practice of homosexuality on the grounds that it is hated by God and that He has destroyed an entire people because of it; “We sent against them a violent Tornado with showers of stones, (which destroyed them), except Lot’s household: them We delivered by early Dawn” [54:34] Outside of my opposoition the the lifestyle as a matter of faith and creed, I don’t have a particular issie in other things just because a person is gay or lesbian. If I had to go to the hospital and the attending doctor or nurse happens to be gay, that wouldn’t bother me any more if they happen to be write, or happen to be atheist, as long as they are dedicated to their job. People’s sexuality is between hem and their god if they have one and my views on thr topic is between me and my Lord, and yes, I do have one.

Let’s face it though; homosexuality has become ingrained in our society, and admittedly, gays and lesbians make valuable contributions to the society like everyone else; in medicine, industry, law enforcement, the military, social services, science, education, and of course, the arts. That is a fact. So it is not totally implausible that people may empathize with them as a group, or with individuals that they know personally, even if they do not agree with the practice of homosexuality itself. Even the Prophet Abraham/Ibrahim pleaded on their behalf at first;” When fear had passed from (the mind of) Abraham and the glad tidings had reached him, he began to plead with Us for Lot’s people”. [11:74].

Many of us, have gay or lesbian co-workers, neighbors, employees, associates, and family members, who do us no personal harm, and men us no harm, so the issue for many of us, is closer than we would like. I have worked alongside gays and lesbians in political work, and in the coprate world. In fact the woman who hired me at the Pensylcania Public interest Coalition, Patty Snee, was lesbian and although we did not see eye to eye on the gay issue, the gay and lesbian and pro-gay, pro-choice, and pro- same-sex marriage folks who trained me in issue and electoral politics back in my early to mid-twehties, were awesome folks to work with and they were light years beyond many close minded people as far as understanding hand respecting Muslims. My personal experience with many gays and lesbians has always been that they were actually, cool people, with many of the same quirks and ups and down like other people. Because of this and because of the aforementioned political considerations, it is difficult for some Muslims to even talk publicly about the issue of homosexuality or lesbianism with any conviction. This is another reason why we hardly see it addressed by Muslims publicly in the United States.

Nevertheless, as the issue is being heaved upon the public like a ton of bricks, to the extent that a person could lose his or her job for being anti-gay, bolstered by such arguments that; homosexuals and lesbians are good people, or they are my relative, or that we shouldn’t judge, or they can’t help it, it is understandable although lamentable that some Muslims are starting to crack and accept the practice of same-sex marriage. I’m not saying I agree; I’m just saying it’s understandable since all of the above may be true, and granted, there is hardly anyone who is all bad in every aspect of their lives. However, There are murderers who give generously in charity are good people otherwise, there are pedophiles who teach grade school, and are otherwise good people, there are thieves who smile in your face, and help little old ladies across the street and are otherwise good people, there are rapists who volunteer at charitable organizations and do a good job, and there are criminals of every type who readily engage in their crimes, but are otherwise are good people. However, none of that excuses the sin or the nature of it according to our understanding as Muslims.

Open or Hidden sin

It’s not the just the sin itself that we are talking about; everyone commits one sin or another, based upon the prophetic tradition; “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if you did not commit sin Allah would do away with you and bring people who would commit sin then pray for forgiveness.” [1] It’s one thing to commit sin, if the homosexuals are overwhelmed by their lower desires, and men have sex with men and women have sex with women, while acknowledging it to themselves that they are committing sin. Then this has been the case for thousands of years, before they came out of the closet. However, it’s another thing to openly pronounce that your sin, is not a sin, when God has said otherwise, and it’s still another thing to say openly and proudly that you are a homosexual, that there is nothing wrong with it, and wanting society (Muslims included) as a whole to accept that there is nothing wrong with it, all the while we have scripture that we believe is the divine word of God Almighty saying otherwise.

Muslims, Christians, Jews and anyone else morally opposed to thr practice have just as much right to reject the lifestyle and label it un-godly, as gays and lesbians have to celebrate the lifestyle and declare that it is morally neutral.

However in my opinion, at some point, the believer has to make a decision; do we accept the premise that God’s word is not true, that His promise is not true, that His judgment is not true, that His Prophets (AS) Lot, Jesus, Moses, Muhammad all were not telling the truth; that they all were liars? Or do we accept the premise that Allah Himself, be He Exalted and Glorified, was unjust when he punished the people of Sadam for homosexuality? The current ideological onslaught is not to get people to engage in homosexuality and lesbianism; it is simply to get people to accept that it is okay, that it has no moral consequence, and that it shares the same status as heterosexuality. For the Muslim, this is enough to constitute heresy. This is how the Shaitaan/Satan attacks; he goes after the heart and the belief system first, then after that, the body is sure to follow. The dilemma here is that accepting any of the above, constitutes heresy according to what we believe.

At the end of the day, this is America and people are entitled to do as they please, believe as they please, say what they want and advocate whatever they want. So we are not trying to force our beliefs upon anyone else, but at the same time, we are not supposed to change what we believe, in order to satisfy homosexuals, and lesbians.

Human beings have built within them, an inclination to do sin of all types, which is why the Prophet (SAWS) said: “all the sons of Adam (mankind) commit sin and the best of those who sin are those who repent[2]. However, the issue of religious sanctity is that we recognize moral standards according to what Allah revealed and that we work to suppress our lowly desires, or to channel them in ways that are permissible. Some people, if not most, or all of us, struggle with sin their entire life. That is the nature of being tested in this life. However, once we abdicate the commitment to uphold the truth, then there is no sense to being a Muslim at all.

The issue with same-sex marriage is that Allah has ordained that marriage as something that occurs between a man and a woman or women. When Eve was created, she was already Adam’s wife. Thus if anyone believes that the divine marriage design matrix as fashioned by Allah, is not the proper way, the best way, the ordained way, and the way that is best for human beings living on the planet earth that Allah has created, then they are saying that Allah’s plan and design for men and women is faulty, that it is flawed, and no matter how you slice it, that is disbelief.

Regardless how any one of us feels personally about a gay or lesbian that we my know, or a family member; it is still in my view, against God’s divine law and an abomination, no matter how nice they are, how well they dress, and how helpful they are in other areas. We are not responsible for their homosexuality and lesbianism; however, we are responsible for what we believe about homosexuality, lesbianism and gay marriage. Especially after our scriptures and sacred religious cannons are clear on the issue.  We as Muslim Americans are obligated by God to hold fast to our beliefs, and not give in to modern trends where there is no moral right or moral wrong; where everything is neutral for that is the worship of hawaa [whim].

Time magazine has on its cover, a picture of two men kissing each other and a picture of two women kissing one another cover under the caption: “Gay marriage already won”. So for anyone who is still under the delusion that Iblis is not directly engaged in spiritual warfare and that this is not a battle for the souls of people, then wake up, and think again ; “And on them did Satan prove true his idea, and they followed him, all but a party that believed”. [34:20].


I do not ask people about their sexuality: it is none of my business, and if they want to keep it private to themselves that is fine with me. The people whom I had interacted with in business, education, neighborhood, and neighbors who have been gay or lesbian, have been honest, caring, good neighbors, and people whom I’ve had no problems with. Furthermore, I would not refuse to hire someone, work for someone in a lawful enterprise, or buy or sell from someone because they are gay, nor do I advocate that any Muslim or non-Muslim do such a thing. Nor would I refuse to feed, clothe, or extend charity, kindness, or assistance to a gay person who is not fighting me in my religion and not trying to remove me from my home, based upon the verse; “Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just[3]. Nor will I go around, or advocate calling gay people detestable names in their face, or harassing them because neither our Lord be He Exalted and Glorified, nor our Prophet (SAWS) commanded us to do such.

The Prophet (SAWS) did not harass the mushrikeen (polytheists), and worshipping gods other than Allah is the greatest sin.  Homosexuality is also a grave sin but not as grave as polytheism. The Prophet (SAWS) did business with the polytheists and unbelievers, he showed kindness and charity to them, and he instructed us to do the same, under normal circumstances. So gays and lesbians deserve no less.

Although we are on different sides of this debate, we should keep our disagreement with homosexuals in perspective. Gays and Lesbians are free to believe what they believe, and we are free to believe what we believe. They are free to uphold their whims and lowly desires and we are free to uphold our scripture. They will have their reckoning on the Day of Judgment and I will have mine. I cannot help them on that day, and they cannot help me. Our job as Muslims is to simply deliver the message, to hold fast to what we believe, and to practice our religion the way we ought to. Therefore, I will never accept the moral legitimacy of homosexuality; not ever. And no Muslim who believes in our scriptures ever should. The fast trending tide towards global immorality is a sign of the times and a reminder to Muslims of just how crafty Satan is in that within a span of less than fifty years or so, he managed to convince the majority of Americans, mostly who are Christian, that something that was considered an abomination for thousands of years, should now be an acceptable and supported practice.

The momentum towards legalizing gay marriage in the United States is very strong. Since 2004, 11 states[1] plus the District of Colombia, have legalized gay marriage and the status of California is currently pending before the US Supreme Court. Although I believe categorically that we as Muslim Americans should state our case on same sex marriage issue, and express our indignation and disapproval,  I don’t think we should devote too much of our resources on this issue because there are more important matters that we need to address which affect us. This issue is just another sign for us as Muslims, that shows just how easy it is to drift into heresy, and that we must step up in practicing our faith, calling to it, and remaining steadfast in the face of this as well as other heinous ideological onslaughts of our time.

[1] Massachusetts, Iowa, Connecticut, Vermont, New Hampshire, New York, Washington (State), Main Maryland and Rhode Island.

Imam Luqman Ahmad

Imam Abu Laith Luqman Ahmad, a Philadelphia native, is a writer, a researcher and Imam of the Islamic Society of Folsom, in Northern California. He is a former executive committee member of the North America Imams Federation. He is also and the author of the new book, “Double Edged Slavery “, a critical and authoritative look at the condition of African American and convert Muslims in the United States, and the book: “The Devil’s Deception of the Modern Day Salafi Sect “, a look at the ideological underpinning of modern Salafist extremism. He blogs at, and can be reached at

[1] Narrated by Muslim.

[2] Collected By at-Tirmithee.

[3] Quran, 60:8

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8 responses to “An American Imam Weighs in on the Same Sex Marriage Debate, by Imam Luqman Ahmad”

  1. May Allah reward you. I only wish other Imams were as clear, balance and had the same amount of backbone.


  2. With all due respect to you Imam we (Muslims) have Allah (God) on our side and we do not need to get into this national discussion. When asked state what Allah states in the Quran and keep it moving. We have enough business of our own that we have not attended to well i.e business development, education and social services, etc.


  3. A well-conceived presentation of the Truth of our Belief…Thank you.


  4. Well written and said!


  5. Ahsanta! Unfortunately here in South Africa, we were one of the first countries to legalize same sex marriage. Your article is spot on.


  6. I have one major problem with this piece, and that is this: you say “Therefore, I will never accept the moral legitimacy of homosexuality; not ever.” I’d like to argue that there is, indeed, a moral legitimacy to homosexuality. It is the PRACTICE of homosexuality that is a sin. If a man thinks of another man in a sexual way, but purposefully and mindfully does not act upon his desires due to his obedience to Allah, he has committed no sin and his state of being is not, in itself, morally illegitimate. Gay and lesbian individuals are NOT morally illegitimate because they are gay and lesbian.

    There is no reason to believe that Allah did not create homosexuals, just as He created heterosexuals. By that I mean that there is no reason to believe that sexuality is a choice. Having sexual desire for someone of the opposite sex is not a sin. Acting upon that desire outside the confines of marriage IS. Homosexual Muslims (who do, indeed, exist and even existed in the time of the Prophet, peace be upon him) must mediate their sexuality in the same way that an unmarried heterosexual Muslim must: by limiting inappropriate thoughts, praying for strength to remain chaste, and so on. I absolutely repudiate the idea that homosexuality (and lesbianism) is inherently evil so long as one is not engaging in a homosexual lifestyle. I don’t believe that one chooses his or her sexuality. I think we should keep in mind that our issue, as Muslims, is with sexuality outside of the accepted confine. ANY sexual act outside of marriage is sinful, and Islam does not recognize same-sex marriage. Thus, homosexual sexual acts are always considered a sin, but the state of being a homosexual is not a sin, nor an abomination, as long as the individual in question does not choose to act upon their sexual desires.

    Take the most oft-cited passages in the Qur’an condemning homosexual conduct: “We also sent Lut. He said to his people: ‘Will you commit lewdness such as no people in creation ever committed before you? For you come in lust to men in preference to women. No, you are indeed a people transgressing beyond bounds’ (Qur’an 7:80-81). and ‘Of all the creatures in the world, will you approach males, and leave those whom Allah has created for you to be your mates? No, you are a people transgressing (all limits)!’ (Qur’an 26:165-166). It very clearly denounces the actions of the people of Lut. “…commit lewdness…” “…come in lust to men…” and “…you approach males…” These are all actions. The people of Lut are not destroyed for being gay, they are destroyed for participating in gay acts. We, as Muslims, need to make this distinction clear. God does not hate people for how He created them. It is the actions of individuals that matter and, even more than that, the intentions behind the actions that matter the most.

    Other than this major and important point, I agree with overall message of this piece.

    These are my beliefs, and may Allah forgive me if I misled or harmed anyone by voicing them.


    1. muslim sister Avatar
      muslim sister

      Many times as Muslims, we forget that there is a spiritual battle that is continuously ongoing.

      As one research much that is going on in the world, we see and regconize this spiritual war.
      This research tells us what is going on in the world today is not by accident. These evils are being orchestrated by designs …homosexuality, the sexualization of children,Islamic terrorists,the poisoning of our food and water, gang violence the drug epiidemic in our communities etc.

      There is no reason for Muslims to be ignorant about these matters, especially those that have acess to internet. Lots of good info on youtube and other places.

      We are living in the time of Dajjal/ Evil is being portrayed as good and good as something outdated and wrong..

      With all the info why are so many still being tricked and appear asleep???


      1. Good question and comment Muslim sister, may Allah enlighten us and bring us out of our slumber.


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