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RUSHING INTO MARRIAGE. YES? OR NO?

Don’t rush into marriage because your friends are married. Rush into marriage because marriage is Sunna, because it is an important part of your religion, and because it is one of the best of acts to secure your religion , your chastity,  your honor, your family, and your sanity which should all be hastened, not delayed.

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم never encouraged delaying marriage unnecessarily. His Sunnah was directed towards hastening marriage. There is no part of this religion, no part of the Sunna, no verse of Quran, no legitimate fiqh ruling, where hastening marriage is considered disliked or blameworthy.

If a person has no desire for sexual intimacy, or companionship, or can control his or her desires by fasting, abstinence, lowering the gaze, and not going near fornication, then delaying marriage, or putting it off is permissible. If a person is not abstaining, or cannot abstain from having sex, needing intimacy, or is tempted at every turn, then they should actively be seeking marriage, and should get married when the opportunity comes. You don’t have to marry the first Joe Abdullah that walks in the door. Ask Allah for guidance and choose wisely. All men, and all women, are not the same.

In the view of the Sharia, marriage is hastened, not delayed. The Prophetصلى الله عليه وسلم said, “Whoever is able to maintain a dwelling, he should get married” . If a person is short in their means, they might want to wait and be chaste in the meantime. “And let those who do not find marriage remain chaste until God enriches them of His bounty”. 24:32

However, if you opt for marriage despite financial hardship, of course marriage may be difficult at first, but Allah can and will enrich you out of His abundance, because that is the way Allah works. “And marry the young women among you and the righteous among your male and female servants. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them of His bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficient, All-Knowing” 24:33

Allah can send a suitable person for marriage your way all the time, but people delay, or refuse, or put it off thinking one is coming on the next train, or simply not paying attention, The train might have already come, but it was decreed that you missed it. Or maybe a acceptable suitor hasn’t come across your path yet. That happens. Nothing in our religion teaches that there is a guaranteed spouse in this life for every woman..In the next life, every woman entering Janna will have a spouse. Only one tho. lol.,

There are other reasons sanctioned by our scripture that would make putting of marriage permissible, even advisable or necessary according to circumstances. Of course all the particulars of marriage are not covered in this one post. This post is about rushing into a marriage, and how hastening marriage is not a blameworthy action according to Islam.

The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, “If someone comes to you and you’re satisfied with his religion (deen), and his character (khuluq), then marry him. If you don’t do that, there will be great fitna in the earth, and much corruption“.

I rest my case. And Allah knows best.

Imam Luqman Ahmad

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